Is flying to Sri Lanka and joining a monastery a smart decision?

Question

I am done with school and I realize that the systematic way of American society is wrong. After I finish high school in June I want to board a plane to Sri Lanka to ordain to a Theravadan monastery. Am I being irrational?

Answer 1

First I would suggest adjusting your lifestyle to a meditators lifestyle. This will give you a taste (small taste) of what it would mean to become a monk.
A meditators lifestyle would basically mean following the 8 precepts, restricting sleep, and meditating a lot. I say minimum of 4 hours a day but no limit and how much you can go up to. Also,sense restraint and general mindfulness in the day.

Also, contemplate on what it really means on a practical level. You could possibly, likely really, never see your friends again, certain family members and all the simple things you like you won't have. Family will only see you if they go out and visit you or fly you to them. That movie you like? Won't see it again. I know a number of people who feel the same way you do but who couldn't give up all these things and people. So, consider it.

Also consider why you want to ordain. What is the real, true and deep motive. It seems to me that people that don't truly have the desire to do it won't last. So think about the positives of monastic life and reasons to do it etc..

As you follow more precepts and train more, you will have up days and down days. It is your continuity and determination that will get you through it. And patience. Patience, patience, patience.

I'm not discouraging you, in fact I am encouraging you to go forth. I think it is a good decision for someone if they are ready. I'm just telling you what I have done to prepare mentally and physically--with positive results--so that you can properly prepare yourself as well.

Comments

@nicolas Well said man thanks a lot. I'm going to have to reflect on this. I had no idea monks restricted sleep though and I'm going to have to work on my meditation big time. I can barely meditate for 20 minutes straight.

Answer 2

I think this video could partially answer your question:

Answer 3

Do what your hearts mind tells you , Don't be afraid to explore opportunity. I think you could only be irrational if you are worried about what others think. You know right from wrong, as long as you don't harm others , don't be concerned , this is about you and your life and future, You find happiness then happiness will be felt around you, towards friends family etc. Good-luck

Answer 4

Something else for anyone thinking about these things:

http://www.accesstoinsight.org/lib/authors/sumana/wheel027.html

http://yuttadhammo.sirimangalo.org/

Answer 5

I agree with the advice given.

But would add if u r at school age your life experience might b limited.

Attending monastic retreats might supply an insight into what is involved in permanent monastic life,and give u some time to decide what is the best for u JMO

Peace

"What we think about most of the time we become"

Comments

@gc367581 I'll definitely have to look into monastic retreats. thanks